Whyshouldwebemoreashamedtoweepthantolaughbeforecompany?Wemayoftenhaveasrealoccasiontodotheoneastodotheother。butwealwaysfeelthatthespectatorsaremorelikelytogoalongwithusintheagreeable,thaninthepainfulemotion。Itisalwaysmiserabletocomplain,evenwhenweareoppressedbythemostdreadfulcalamities。Butthetriumphofvictoryisnotalwaysungraceful。Prudence,indeed,wouldoftenadviseustobearourprosperitywithmoremoderation;becauseprudencewouldteachustoavoidthatenvywhichthisverytriumphis,morethananything,apttoexcite。
Howheartyaretheacclamationsofthemob,whoneverbearanyenvytotheirsuperiors,atatriumphorapublicentry?Andhowsedateandmoderateiscommonlytheirgriefatanexecution?
Oursorrowatafuneralgenerallyamountstonomorethananaffectedgravity。butourmirthatachristeningoramarriage,isalwaysfromtheheart,andwithoutanyaffectation。Uponthese,andallsuchjoyousoccasions,oursatisfaction,thoughnotsodurable,isoftenaslivelyasthatofthepersonsprincipallyconcerned。Wheneverwecordiallycongratulateourfriends,which,however,tothedisgraceofhumannature,wedobutseldom,theirjoyliterallybecomesourjoy。weare,forthemoment,ashappyastheyare:ourheartswellsandoverflowswithrealpleasure:joyandcomplacencysparklefromoureyes,andanimateeveryfeatureofourcountenance,andeverygestureofourbody。
But,onthecontrary,whenwecondolewithourfriendsintheirafflictions,howlittledowefeel,incomparisonofwhattheyfeel?Wesitdownbythem,welookatthem,andwhiletheyrelatetousthecircumstancesoftheirmisfortune,welistentothemwithgravityandattention。Butwhiletheirnarrationiseverymomentinterruptedbythosenaturalburstsofpassionwhichoftenseemalmosttochoaktheminthemidstofit;howfararethelanguidemotionsofourheartsfromkeepingtimetothetransportsoftheirs?Wemaybesensible,atthesametime,thattheirpassionisnatural,andnogreaterthanwhatweourselvesmightfeeluponthelikeoccasion。Wemayeveninwardlyreproachourselveswithourownwantofsensibility,andperhaps,onthataccount,workourselvesupintoanartificialsympathy,which,however,whenitisraised,isalwaystheslightestandmosttransitoryimaginable;andgenerally,assoonaswehavelefttheroom,vanishes,andisgoneforever。Nature,itseems,whensheloadeduswithourownsorrows,thoughtthattheywereenough,andthereforedidnotcommandustotakeanyfurthershareinthoseofothers,thanwhatwasnecessarytopromptustorelievethem。
Itisonaccountofthisdullsensibilitytotheafflictionsofothers,thatmagnanimityamidstgreatdistressappearsalwayssodivinelygraceful。Hisbehaviourisgenteelandagreeablewhocanmaintainhischeerfulnessamidstanumberoffrivolousdisasters。Butheappearstobemorethanmortalwhocansupportinthesamemannerthemostdreadfulcalamities。Wefeelwhatanimmenseeffortisrequisitetosilencethoseviolentemotionswhichnaturallyagitateanddistractthoseinhissituation。Weareamazedtofindthathecancommandhimselfsoentirely。Hisfirmness,atthesametime,perfectlycoincideswithourinsensibility。Hemakesnodemanduponusforthatmoreexquisitedegreeofsensibilitywhichwefind,andwhichwearemortifiedtofind,thatwedonotpossess。Thereisthemostperfectcorrespondencebetweenhissentimentsandours,andonthataccountthemostperfectproprietyinhisbehaviour。Itisaproprietytoo,which,fromourexperienceoftheusualweaknessofhumannature,wecouldnotreasonablyhaveexpectedheshouldbeabletomaintain。Wewonderwithsurpriseandastonishmentatthatstrengthofmindwhichiscapableofsonobleandgenerousaneffort。Thesentimentofcompletesympathyandapprobation,mixedandanimatedwithwonderandsurprise,constituteswhatisproperlycalledadmiration,ashasalreadybeenmorethanoncetakennoticeofCato,surroundedonallsidesbyhisenemies,unabletoresistthem,disdainingtosubmittothem,andreduced,bytheproudmaximsofthatage,tothenecessityofdestroyinghimself;yetnevershrinkingfromhismisfortunes,neversupplicatingwiththelamentablevoiceofwretchedness,thosemiserablesympathetictearswhichwearealwayssounwillingtogive;butonthecontrary,arminghimselfwithmanlyfortitude,andthemomentbeforeheexecuteshisfatalresolution,giving,withhisusualtranquillity,allnecessaryordersforthesafetyofhisfriends;appearstoSeneca,thatgreatpreacherofinsensibility,aspectaclewhicheventhegodsthemselvesmightbeholdwithpleasureandadmiration。
Wheneverwemeet,incommonlife,withanyexamplesofsuchheroicmagnanimity,wearealwaysextremelyaffected。Wearemoreapttoweepandshedtearsforsuchas,inthismanner,seemtofeelnothingforthem。andinselves,thanforthosewhogivewaytoalltheweaknessofsorrow:thisparticularcase,thesympatheticgriefofthespectatorappearstogobeyondtheoriginalpassioninthepersonprincipallyconcerned。ThefriendsofSocratesallweptwhenhedrankthelastpotion,whilehehimselfexpressedthegayestandmostcheerfultranquillity。Uponallsuchoccasionsthespectatormakesnoeffort,andhasnooccasiontomakeany,inordertoconquerhissympatheticsorrow。
Heisundernofearthatitwilltransporthimtoanythingthatisextravagantandimproper;heisratherpleasedwiththesensibilityofhisownheart,andgiveswaytoitwithcomplacenceandself-approbation。Hegladlyindulges,therefore,themostmelancholyviewswhichcannaturallyoccurtohim,concerningthecalamityofhisfriend,forwhom,perhaps,heneverfeltsoexquisitelybefore,thetenderandtearfulpassionoflove。Butitisquiteotherwisewiththepersonprincipallyconcerned。Heisobliged,asmuchaspossible,toturnawayhiseyesfromwhateveriseithernaturallyterribleordisagreeableinhissituation。Tooseriousanattentiontothosecircumstances,hefears,mightmakesoviolentanimpressionuponhim,thathecouldnolongerkeepwithintheboundsofmoderation,orrenderhimselftheobjectofthecompletesympathyandapprobationofthespectators。Hefixeshisthoughts,therefore,uponthoseonlywhichareagreeable,theapplauseandadmirationwhichheisabouttodeservebytheheroicmagnanimityofhisbehaviour。Tofeelthatheiscapableofsonobleandgenerousaneffort,tofeelthatinthisdreadfulsituationhecanstillactashewoulddesiretoact,animatesandtransportshimwithjoy,andenableshimtosupportthattriumphantgaietywhichseemstoexultinthevictoryhethusgainsoverhismisfortunes。
Onthecontrary,healwaysappears,insomemeasure,meananddespicable,whoissunkinsorrowanddejectionuponaccountofanycalamityofhisown。Wecannotbringourselvestofeelforhimwhathefeelsforhimself,andwhat,perhaps,weshouldfeelforourselvesifinhissituation:we,therefore,despisehim;
unjustly,perhaps,ifanysentimentcouldberegardedasunjust,towhichwearebynatureirresistiblydetermined。Theweaknessofsorrowneverappearsinanyrespectagreeable,exceptwhenitarisesfromwhatwefeelforothersmorethanfromwhatwefeelforourselves。Ason,uponthedeathofanindulgentandrespectablefather,maygivewaytoitwithoutmuchblame。Hissorrowischieflyfoundeduponasortofsympathywithhisdepartedparentandwereadilyenterintothishumaneemotion。
Butifheshouldindulgethesameweaknessuponaccountofanymisfortunewhichaffectedhimselfonly,hewouldnolongermeetwithanysuchindulgence。Ifheshouldbereducedtobeggaryandruin,ifheshouldbeexposedtothemostdreadfuldangers,ifheshouldevenbeledouttoapublicexecution,andthereshedonesingletearuponthescaffold,hewoulddisgracehimselfforeverintheopinionofallthegallantandgenerouspartofmankind。
Theircompassionforhim,however,wouldbeverystrong,andverysincere;butasitwouldstillfallshortofthisexcessiveweakness,theywouldhavenopardonforthemanwhocouldthusexposehimselfintheeyesoftheworld。Hisbehaviourwouldaffectthemwithshameratherthanwithsorrow;andthedishonourwhichhehadthusbroughtuponhimselfwouldappeartothemthemostlamentablecircumstanceinhismisfortune。HowdiditdisgracethememoryoftheintrepidDukeofBiron,whohadsooftenbraveddeathinthefield,thatheweptuponthescaffold,whenhebeheldthestatetowhichhewasfallen,andrememberedthefavourandthegloryfromwhichhisownrashnesshadsounfortunatelythrownhim!
OftheoriginofAmbition,andofthedistinctionofRanksItisbecausemankindaredisposedtosympathizemoreentirelywithourjoythanwithoursorrow,thatwemakeparadeofourriches,andconcealourpoverty。Nothingissomortifyingastobeobligedtoexposeourdistresstotheviewofthepublic,andtofeel,thatthoughoursituationisopentotheeyesofallmankind,nomortalconceivesforusthehalfofwhatwesuffer。Nay,itischieflyfromthisregardtothesentimentsofmankind,thatwepursuerichesandavoidpoverty。Fortowhatpurposeisallthetoilandbustleofthisworld?whatistheendofavariceandambition,ofthepursuitofwealth,ofpower,andpreheminence?Isittosupplythenecessitiesofnature?Thewagesofthemeanestlabourercansupplythem。Weseethattheyaffordhimfoodandclothing,thecomfortofahouse,andofafamily。Ifweexaminedhisoeconomywithrigour,weshouldfindthathespendsagreatpartofthemuponconveniencies,whichmayberegardedassuperfluities,andthat,uponextraordinaryoccasions,hecangivesomethingeventovanityanddistinction。
Whatthenisthecauseofouraversiontohissituation,andwhyshouldthosewhohavebeeneducatedinthehigherranksoflife,regarditasworsethandeath,tobereducedtolive,evenwithoutlabour,uponthesamesimplefarewithhim,todwellunderthesamelowlyroof,andtobeclothedinthesamehumble。
attire?Dotheyimaginethattheirstomachisbetter,ortheirsleepsounderinapalacethaninacottage?Thecontraryhasbeensooftenobserved,and,indeed,issoveryobvious,thoughithadneverbeenobserved,thatthereisnobodyignorantofit。
Fromwhence,then,arisesthatemulationwhichrunsthroughallthedifferentranksofmen,andwhataretheadvantageswhichweproposebythatgreatpurposeofhumanlifewhichwecallbetteringourcondition?Tobeobserved,tobeattendedto,tobetakennoticeofwithsympathy,complacency,andapprobation,arealltheadvantageswhichwecanproposetoderivefromit。Itisthevanity,nottheease,orthepleasure,whichinterestsus。
Butvanityisalwaysfoundeduponthebeliefofourbeingtheobjectofattentionandapprobation。Therichmangloriesinhisriches,becausehefeelsthattheynaturallydrawuponhimtheattentionoftheworld,andthatmankindaredisposedtogoalongwithhiminallthoseagreeableemotionswithwhichtheadvantagesofhissituationsoreadilyinspirehim。Atthethoughtofthis,hisheartseemstoswellanddilateitselfwithinhim,andheisfonderofhiswealth,uponthisaccount,thanforalltheotheradvantagesitprocureshim。Thepoorman,onthecontrary,isashamedofhispoverty。Hefeelsthatiteitherplaceshimoutofthesightofmankind,or,thatiftheytakeanynoticeofhim,theyhave,however,scarceanyfellow-feelingwiththemiseryanddistresswhichhesuffers。Heismortifieduponbothaccounts。forthoughtobeoverlooked,andtobedisapprovedof,arethingsentirelydifferent,yetasobscuritycoversusfromthedaylightofhonourandapprobation,tofeelthatwearetakennonoticeof,necessarilydampsthemostagreeablehope,anddisappointsthemostardentdesire,ofhumannature。Thepoormangoesoutandcomesinunheeded,andwheninthemidstofacrowdisinthesameobscurityasifshutupinhisownhovel。Thosehumblecaresandpainfulattentionswhichoccupythoseinhissituation,affordnoamusementtothedissipatedandthegay。Theyturnawaytheireyesfromhim,oriftheextremityofhisdistressforcesthemtolookathim,itisonlytospurnsodisagreeableanobjectfromamongthem。Thefortunateandtheproudwonderattheinsolenceofhumanwretchedness,thatitshoulddaretopresentitselfbeforethem,andwiththeloathsomeaspectofitsmiserypresumetodisturbtheserenityoftheirhappiness。