OftheCharacteroftheIndividual,sofarasitcanaffecttheHappinessofotherPeopleThecharacterofeveryindividual,sofarasitcanaffectthehappinessofotherpeople,mustdosobyitsdispositioneithertohurtortobenefitthem。
Properresentmentforinjusticeattempted,oractuallycommitted,istheonlymotivewhich,intheeyesoftheimpartialspectator,canjustifyourhurtingordisturbinginanyrespectthehappinessofourneighbour。Todosofromanyothermotiveisitselfaviolationofthelawsofjustice,whichforceoughttobeemployedeithertorestrainortopunish。Thewisdomofeverystateorcommonwealthendeavours,aswellasitcan,toemploytheforceofthesocietytorestrainthosewhoaresubjecttoitsauthority,fromhurtingordisturbingthehappinessofoneanother。Theruleswhichitestablishesforthispurpose,constitutethecivilandcriminallawofeachparticularstateorcountry。Theprinciplesuponwhichthoseruleseitherare,oroughttobefounded,arethesubjectofaparticularscience,ofallsciencesbyfarthemostimportant,buthitherto,perhaps,theleastcultivated,thatofnaturaljurisprudence,。concerningwhichitbelongsnottoourpresentsubjecttoenterintoanydetail。Asacredandreligiousregardnottohurtordisturbinanyrespectthehappinessofourneighbour,eveninthosecaseswherenolawcanproperlyprotecthim,constitutesthecharacteroftheperfectlyinnocentandjustman;acharacterwhich,whencarriedtoacertaindelicacyofattention,isalwayshighlyrespectableandevenvenerableforitsownsake,andcanscarceeverfailtobeaccompaniedwithmanyothervirtues,withgreatfeelingforotherpeople,withgreathumanityandgreatbenevolence。Itisacharactersufficientlyunderstood,andrequiresnofurtherexplanation。InthepresentsectionIshallonlyendeavourtoexplainthefoundationofthatorderwhichnatureseemstohavetracedoutforthedistributionofourgoodoffices,orforthedirectionandemploymentofourverylimitedpowersofbeneficence:first,towardsindividuals;andsecondly,towardssocieties。
Thesameunerringwisdom,itwillbefound,whichregulateseveryotherpartofherconduct,directs,inthisrespecttoo,theorderofherrecommendations;whicharealwaysstrongerorweakerinproportionasourbeneficenceismoreorlessnecessary,orcanbemoreorlessuseful。
OftheOrderinwhichIndividualsarerecommendedbyNaturetoourcareandattentionEveryman,astheStoicsusedtosay,isfirstandprincipallyrecommendedtohisowncare;andeverymaniscertainly,ineveryrespect,fitterandablertotakecareofhimselfthanofanyotherperson。Everymanfeelshisownpleasuresandhisownpainsmoresensiblythanthoseofotherpeople。Theformeraretheoriginalsensations;thelatterthereflectedorsympatheticimagesofthosesensations。Theformermaybesaidtobethesubstance;thelattertheshadow。
Afterhimself,themembersofhisownfamily,thosewhousuallyliveinthesamehousewithhim,hisparents,hischildren,hisbrothersandsisters,arenaturallytheobjectsofhiswarmestaffections。Theyarenaturallyandusuallythepersonsuponwhosehappinessormiseryhisconductmusthavethegreatestinfluence。Heismorehabituatedtosympathizewiththem。Heknowsbetterhoweverythingislikelytoaffectthem,andhissympathywiththemismorepreciseanddeterminate,thanitcanbewiththegreaterpartofotherpeople。Itapproachesnearer,inshort,towhathefeelsforhimself。
Thissympathytoo,andtheaffectionswhicharefoundedonit,arebynaturemorestronglydirectedtowardshischildrenthantowardshisparents,andhistendernessfortheformerseemsgenerallyamoreactiveprinciple,thanhisreverenceandgratitudetowardsthelatter。Inthenaturalstateofthings,ithasalreadybeenobserved,theexistenceofthechild,forsometimeafteritcomesintotheworld,dependsaltogetheruponthecareoftheparent;thatoftheparentdoesnotnaturallydependuponthecareofthechild。Intheeyeofnature,itwouldseem,achildisamoreimportantobjectthananoldman;andexcitesamuchmorelively,aswellasamuchmoreuniversalsympathy。Itoughttodoso。Everythingmaybeexpected,oratleasthoped,fromthechild。Inordinarycases,verylittlecanbeeitherexpectedorhopedfromtheoldman。Theweaknessofchildhoodintereststheaffectionsofthemostbrutalandhard-hearted。Itisonlytothevirtuousandhumane,thattheinfirmitiesofoldagearenottheobjectsofcontemptandaversion。Inordinarycases,anoldmandieswithoutbeingmuchregrettedbyanybody。
Scarceachildcandiewithoutrendingasundertheheartofsomebody。
Theearliestfriendships,thefriendshipswhicharenaturallycontractedwhentheheartismostsusceptibleofthatfeeling,arethoseamongbrothersandsisters。Theirgoodagreement,whiletheyremaininthesamefamily,isnecessaryforitstranquillityandhappiness。Theyarecapableofgivingmorepleasureorpaintooneanotherthantothegreaterpartofotherpeople。Theirsituationrenderstheirmutualsympathyoftheutmostimportancetotheircommonhappiness;and,bythewisdomofnature,thesamesituation,byobligingthemtoaccommodatetooneanother,rendersthatsympathymorehabitual,andtherebymorelively,moredistinct,andmoredeterminate。
Thechildrenofbrothersandsistersarenaturallyconnectedbythefriendshipwhich,afterseparatingintodifferentfamilies,continuestotakeplacebetweentheirparents。Theirgoodagreementimprovestheenjoymentofthatfriendship;theirdiscordwoulddisturbit。Astheyseldomliveinthesamefamily,however,thoughofmoreimportancetooneanother,thantothegreaterpartofotherpeople,theyareofmuchlessthanbrothersandsisters。Astheirmutualsympathyislessnecessary,soitislesshabitual,andthereforeproportionablyweaker。
Thechildrenofcousins,beingstilllessconnected,areofstilllessimportancetooneanother;andtheaffectiongraduallydiminishesastherelationgrowsmoreandmoreremote。
Whatiscalledaffection,isinrealitynothingbuthabitualsympathy。Ourconcerninthehappinessormiseryofthosewhoaretheobjectsofwhatwecallouraffections;ourdesiretopromotetheone,andtopreventtheother;areeithertheactualfeelingofthathabitualsympathy,orthenecessaryconsequencesofthatfeeling。Relationsbeingusuallyplacedinsituationswhichnaturallycreatethishabitualsympathy,itisexpectedthatasuitabledegreeofaffectionshouldtakeplaceamongthem。Wegenerallyfindthatitactuallydoestakeplace;wethereforenaturallyexpectthatitshould;andweare,uponthataccount,moreshockedwhen,uponanyoccasion,wefindthatitdoesnot。
Thegeneralruleisestablished,thatpersonsrelatedtooneanotherinacertaindegree,oughtalwaystobeaffectedtowardsoneanotherinacertainmanner,andthatthereisalwaysthehighestimpropriety,andsometimesevenasortofimpiety,intheirbeingaffectedinadifferentmanner。Aparentwithoutparentaltenderness,achilddevoidofallfilialreverence,appearmonsters,theobjects,notofhatredonly,butofhorror。
Thoughinaparticularinstance,thecircumstanceswhichusuallyproducethosenaturalaffections,astheyarecalled,may,bysomeaccident,nothavetakenplace,yetrespectforthegeneralrulewillfrequently,insomemeasure,supplytheirplace,andproducesomethingwhich,thoughnotaltogetherthesame,maybear,however,averyconsiderableresemblancetothoseaffections。Afatherisapttobelessattachedtoachild,who,bysomeaccident,hasbeenseparatedfromhiminitsinfancy,andwhodoesnotreturntohimtillitisgrownuptomanhood。Thefatherisapttofeellesspaternaltendernessforthechild;thechild,lessfilialreverenceforthefather。Brothersandsisters,whentheyhavebeeneducatedindistantcountries,areapttofeelasimilardiminutionofaffection。Withthedutifulandthevirtuous,however,respectforthegeneralrulewillfrequentlyproducesomethingwhich,thoughbynomeansthesame,yetmayverymuchresemblethosenaturalaffections。Evenduringtheseparation,thefatherandthechild,thebrothersorthesisters,arebynomeansindifferenttooneanother。Theyallconsideroneanotheraspersonstoandfromwhomcertainaffectionsaredue,andtheyliveinthehopesofbeingsometimeoranotherinasituationtoenjoythatfriendshipwhichoughtnaturallytohavetakenplaceamongpersonssonearlyconnected。
Tilltheymeet,theabsentson,theabsentbrother,arefrequentlythefavouriteson,thefavouritebrother。Theyhaveneveroffended,or,iftheyhave,itissolongago,thattheoffenceisforgotten,assomechildishtricknotworththeremembering。Everyaccounttheyhaveheardofoneanother,ifconveyedbypeopleofanytolerablegoodnature,hasbeen,inthehighestdegree,flatteringandfavourable。Theabsentson,theabsentbrother,isnotlikeotherordinarysonsandbrothers;butanall-perfectson,anall-perfectbrother;andthemostromantichopesareentertainedofthehappinesstobeenjoyedinthefriendshipandconversationofsuchpersons。Whentheymeet,itisoftenwithsostrongadispositiontoconceivethathabitualsympathywhichconstitutesthefamilyaffection,thattheyareveryapttofancytheyhaveactuallyconceivedit,andtobehavetooneanotherasiftheyhad。Timeandexperience,however,Iamafraid,toofrequentlyundeceivethem。Uponamorefamiliaracquaintance,theyfrequentlydiscoverinoneanotherhabits,humours,andinclinations,differentfromwhattheyexpected,towhich,fromwantofhabitualsympathy,fromwantoftherealprincipleandfoundationofwhatisproperlycalledfamily-affection,theycannotnoweasilyaccommodatethemselves。
Theyhaveneverlivedinthesituationwhichalmostnecessarilyforcesthateasyaccommodation,andthoughtheymaynowbesincerelydesiroustoassumeit,theyhavereallybecomeincapableofdoingso。Theirfamiliarconversationandintercoursesoonbecomelesspleasingtothem,and,uponthataccount,lessfrequent。Theymaycontinuetolivewithoneanotherinthemutualexchangeofallessentialgoodoffices,andwitheveryotherexternalappearanceofdecentregard。Butthatcordialsatisfaction,thatdelicioussympathy,thatconfidentialopennessandease,whichnaturallytakeplaceintheconversationofthosewhohavelivedlongandfamiliarlywithoneanother,itseldomhappensthattheycancompletelyenjoy。
Itisonly,however,withthedutifulandthevirtuous,thatthegeneralrulehaseventhisslenderauthority。Withthedissipated,theprofligate,andthevain,itisentirelydisregarded。Theyaresofarfromrespectingit,thattheyseldomtalkofitbutwiththemostindecentderision。andanearlyandlongseparationofthiskindneverfailstoestrangethemmostcompletelyfromoneanother。Withsuchpersons,respectforthegeneralrulecanatbestproduceonlyacoldandaffectedcivilityaveryslendersemblanceofrealregard;andeventhis,theslightestoffence,thesmallestoppositionofinterest,commonlyputsanendtoaltogether。
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